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Is it really that complicated?
Published: Wednesday, February 11, 2009 - 7:28pm
Facebook tells all. Especially when it comes to relationships. If you're not "Facebook official" then you're not official at all. It is just how high school has decided to work.
Previous Facebook categories consisted of married, engaged, in a relationship, and single, which I thought pretty much covered all the bases, right? But more recently "it's complicated" has been added, and it has begun to frustrate me.
Of course someone else's relationship status is none of my business, and of course a silly social networking Web site should not be the cause of a pet peeve, but for some reason it is.
Why would you want to list yourself as "it's complicated"? I will bet you that more than half the time, it really is not that complicated. I mean I guess if you're dating one person and married to someone else, then that might be an issue. But first off, I highly doubt putting "It's complicated" will help the situation. And secondly, you're just broadcasting to the world that something is up.
After a few incidents that I have experienced myself, I learned that you keep your personal information off the Internet. If you are in a relationship, putting down that it's complicated is pretty much another way of telling your boyfriend that it's over. If you weren't having trouble before, then telling the entire world that you're having issues will only worsen the situation.
Maybe if you were in an open relationship, then the "it's complicated" category could work. You're emotionally attached to one person but have agreed not to make anything official. Nonetheless, though, it still is not really all that complicated. The two of you know what is going on; there is just no other category to put yourselves in. I propose an "other" category, which seems more suitable anyway.
If you're "technically" single but have been flirting with a certain person who you think may like you back but both of you are too scared to make the first move but you know you like each other (which may sound a bit confusing but admittedly is a very common scenario in high school), then you might think you should list yourself as "it's complicated" … but you're wrong.
"It's complicated" can mean so many things. If you're interested in someone then why feel compelled to mix up those signals? What if they get online and see your new status? If it were me I might think the person means "I don't know if I like you" or "I'm interested in multiple people" or "How do I get out of this?" It requires communication. And if you're comfortable enough talking to someone about changing your Facebook status to "it's complicated," then you should be comfortable enough talking to them about a relationship.
The joke relationship statuses are actually OK. If you feel inspired by this rant to go change your status to "it's complicated" just to prove how funny it is, by all means I encourage it. Because, honestly, this should really not be an indication of our relationships in the first place. If someone were to ask me to put a huge sign on my locker proclaiming "I'M IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH …" in big bold block letters, well, I would think they are just silly. Then, in reality, if you think about it, Facebook is asking you to do that exact same thing.
If you're going to be serious, though, then keep the "it's complicated" label out of your system. It doesn't help anyone, and it only broadcasts unnecessary personal information to the rest of the world. If it was all that complicated I'm sure you wouldn't be wanting to share that in the first place. Even if you're using this label in an effort not to look single anymore (yeah, we all feel a little lonesome sometimes), try your hardest not to. Maybe just make your relationship status invisible or something.
This may be an unrealistic pet peeve. I get that. Maybe Facebook will read this blog entry and consider my suggestions. Or maybe I'm just not part of this advanced technology high-speed Internet generation of young'uns, and I will have to adjust.





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facebook relationship statuses are ridiculous. not just 'its complicated', all of it. if someone really wants to know, they can ask. its not like in real life peopel go walking around with a banner proclaiming their status.
nice blog :]
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